You are who you are. Perhaps we’ll learn to recognize what that is. Instead of analyzing the pros and cons of two hypothesis. Perhaps innately we are simply ourselves and that determines how we react.
The trick is on zoning in on who you are, at your core, where no one is watching. This is why people are taught to meditate, as a way of spending time with yourself, learning who you are when you are not doing.
Wendy's Soliloquy 