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I wanted to share a video that illustrates how I see our best future. What she shows is how the majority of us can impact the world around us. I interpret our contribution as sharing positivity and giving in ways that help each other.

*Full disclosure, I am a Martha Beck certified coach and this 9 minute video is Martha Beck.



A Year

It is coming up on a year. Now I realize why I started this blog was to find my authentic voice. So I’m back to blogging more regularity. Truth is, I’m loving my life and I enjoy many aspects, so I like to write about the minutiae. Like coincidences, manifestation and gratitude and how I’ve come to see how the teachings of Vipassana resonated so well with my experiences.

I believe they call it the Dharma of things. Those moments, when it is perfectly clear, that there has been an interference with your life. I can feel the teachings rewriting how I would word some things. There is no doubt they are having an impact on how I see the world.

As told in a story about pudding, take the little black stone out and enjoy the pudding. I have a little black stone, pile. Especially the bits about no sensual pleasures and giving up my shit–renouncing it is called. But there is a core truth there. I’ve always believed that at our own core we know right from wrong. Getting in touch with how your actions come in contact with your own body, there is a new understanding that you receive directly from yourself.

By focusing on your body sensations you learn to connect with your own intuition. Even as I write now, I can feel the sensations that I feel while meditating. It has a comforting, whole body, feel. I have already encountered the importance of paying attention to your body as taught by Martha Beck. She teaches the “body compass” as a tool to use on yourself to point to your North Star. By paying attention to the sensations in your body you can learn how it speaks to you through pain, contraction, openness and other sensations.

So I’m intrigued. I’ve promised myself I’ll meditate at least 5 times a week, for six weeks and decide then. In the mean time I’m going to keep writing about how these teachings fit with what I already know and practice. To truly understand one must experience Vipassana with a group.  But it is not for the faint of heart. It is a long and gruelling process. I stayed because I promised myself in advance that I would stay. But otherwise I considered leaving every other day. Especially when I realized I could go home and have an entire weekend, with no one expecting anything of me. It was difficult to stay.

These centres are financed only through donations given after you have completed a ten day course. It gives you the opportunity to give someone else the experience you had. My understanding is that you go away and when you can assess how you’ve benefited you pay it forward. So I’m in that space when I know the teachings are having an impact and I’m awaiting my assessment. Then I’ll give money in Dana.


Susan Hyatt

I just got off a webinar with the Fantastic Susan Hyatt, one of my favourite Woman’s Woman. She is planning trips all over the world for her elite coaching sessions. Villas, castles, that sort of thing.

She is a common sense, wisdom kinda gal and I love her. There’s not a lot of people I’d want to meet for the first time, after swimming, while still in the pool, but she’s always been welcoming and gracious.

Picture Max, on the highway in Michigan. Who knows what speed I’m going? My dashboard is in kilometres. People are passing me, so even if I’m speeding, they likely know this road and the likelihood of radar. But I digress, 70 degrees, roof down, right into the heart of Chicago, for a dinner with Susan. She hosts these dinners that include coaching and it all comes together so well.

Today, Susan was talking to women business owners, and in general, any woman that is out there making their way in our world. She covered too many topics to mention, but one that spoke to me was the importance of self-care.

To those of you that follow my blog, you already know this, so I apologize. But, I have been struggling to find that balance myself. What level of exercise energizes me and doesn’t drain me? How do I learn the signals from my body about eating? These are things that I have spoken about. She goes into detail in how to develop a plan for yourself.

Anywho, she has another seminar tomorrow, live.



Train of Thought

After having a fight with myself earlier about my phone on the balcony, I started wondering, if only for a moment, how to distinguish that presence, or knowing, from the constant barrage of word generation. I remembered a teaching by Martha Beck.IMG_5868

Martha Beck suggests mastering being present including waiting for your body to give direction instead of verbally deciding what to do next. This is quite difficult to do. I usually think, I’ll go here and do this and then I’ll go there and do that and then I proceed.

What Martha recommends is to stand and not give yourself any direction. She spoke about dancing or moving in place just to unlock your body and feel it moving. Then, you simply “allow” any movement that wants to occur.

It is surprising when you do this because it turns out there is an “agenda” that you might ignore all of the time. It is an interesting perspective to just allow what is, instead of thinking about it, experience it.

Like my fight with myself was my inability to let go of what I had “decided” to do and let myself just do what I wanted. I knew what I wanted. The argument I was having with myself was just background noise.



Max Taken in the garage, because it was raining.

I’ve been meaning to talk about Max, my current love. He was one of the ones I missed while in Spain. I would see a familiar look and stop, look and long for Max. He originated both out of a long held passion and the writings of Martha Beck, one of my teachers. There are only so many ways that you can deal with a problem. There’s a catchy way to remember them, but all I know is if you have to do something and you can’t give it away or pay someone to do it, you should make it as enjoyable as possible.

In this instance, a huge amount of my time was spent driving my daughters around. How could I make that as enjoyable as possible? And in walked Max. He is a 328i, 2009, dark metallic blue, cabriolet, BMW. And in my not so unbiased opinion has the best front end of any other make or model of BMW. Looking at it makes me want to growl.

The sounds system allowed my girls to play their own music and having the roof down makes any day better. Suffice it to say, sometimes between a mother and a daughter, it is good to be reminded that you can enjoy each other’s company without having to converse. And who can converse with the top down and the music blasting?

Especially in the winter with the seat heaters on and the windows up. The number of seat positions are infinite. They are all motorized and both parts of the seat can move independently in multiple directions. Total comfort. This is the first car I’ve ever been able to use the head rest in.

Max currently, makes the opportunity to drive the distances necessary to see my daughters, even more pleasant and I am more likely to drive one of the girls home knowing Max will be there with me.


Go Wild

A Martha Beck quote that resonated with me,

“Within each of us, there is a part that has been


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tamed—by our parents, by our religions, by our cultures—and it constricts us in some ways. It some ways it’s great, and in some ways it’s not. When we go wild, when we find the part of ourselves that is absolutely true to us and start peeling away all the socialization, then be-wilder-ment changes us into something we cannot imagine. It’s like the caterpillar trying to imagine flying. Until you’ve gone through the transformation, you cannot become the thing with wings.”

~ Martha Beck, in conversation with Maria Shriver